Want the secret to turbo-charging attraction in your relationship? Buckle up, because I’m about to reveal it! Whether you’re a Queen, King, or somewhere in between, I’ve got you.
Masculine and feminine energies are like a dynamic duo that exist within all of us. Both women and men embody both energies—it’s not about gender—but typically, one tends to be our dominant energy, shaping how we naturally thrive and show up in the world. I like to say that one feels more like at home.
- Masculine Energy: Strong, focused, driven. Thrives on challenges, single-task oriented, and desires to be needed, respected, admired, and appreciated.
- Feminine Energy: Free-flowing, radiant, emotionally-driven. Wild and nurturing, this energy seeks trust, connection, and praise. It’s powerful, not weak—think of a river flowing freely, radiating warmth and light.
So, how do these energies play out in our relationship dynamics?
Simple: polarity creates attraction. The more opposite the energies, the stronger the attraction. Like magnets, but much more exciting! When we lose touch with our core energy, we tend to blend into a “buddy-buddy” dynamic, killing the magnetic pull between us.
I know this firsthand. At one point, I was the woman who could do it all—armed with my “I don’t need a man” armor. I walked tall, proud, like the determined, independent warrior I thought I had to be, dressed from head to toe in my masculine energy. And while that served me well during certain phases, it was exhausting not living in alignment with my true self. What I really craved was reconnecting with my feminine energy.
If this resonates with you, here are a few practices to help you reconnect and restore the natural polarity between you and your partner.
How to get back in alignment and reignite the attraction?
- Recognize Your Core Energy and Your Partner’s:
Learn which energy you naturally resonate with (feminine or masculine) and your partner’s core energy. If you’re embodying too much of one energy and your partner is leaning towards the opposite, balance will help reignite attraction.
- Cultivate Trust & Openness
Feminine energy thrives on connection, trust, and emotional vulnerability. Masculine energy thrives on feeling needed, respected, and appreciated. Foster open conversations and emotional intimacy, allowing the feminine energy to feel seen and understood. For the masculine energy, focus on offering support, providing stability, and showing appreciation.
- Embrace Polarity Practices
Polarity thrives when both partners feel a sense of complementary energies. Create space for your partner to step into their dominant energy while you support theirs. The feminine thrives on playfulness and emotional connection, while the masculine thrives on action and protection. Engage in activities that foster both energies, like spontaneous adventures, playful banter, or intentional one-on-one time.
- Create Intentional Energetic Shifts
If you’ve been operating in your opposite pole (we may need to go back and forth depending on the context), shift intentionally to your core energy to reignite attraction. Engage in activities that align with your energy: masculine energy can focus on structure and achievement, while feminine energy can explore creativity, playfulness, and surrender.
- Watch Out for Intimacy Killers:
Identifying these energy mismatches helps foster authentic connection. Paying attention to what your partner needs—whether admiration or emotional connection—creates a space for attraction to reignite.
- Masculine energy intimacy killers? Being criticized, controlled, or shut out.
- Feminine energy intimacy killers? Feeling unseen, unsafe, or misunderstood.
- Offer what they need, not what you assume they need:
If they lean into their feminine energy, provide attention, understanding, and emotional connection. If they lean into their masculine energy, offer admiration, support, and openness.
- Create Space for Reconnection
After a long day, allow each partner to unwind separately before coming together. This could involve solo time for reflection, rest, or activities that help ground each person in their natural energy. For example, those with dominant feminine energy may benefit from activities like a warm bath, a call with a friend, a glass of wine, or engaging in sensory experiences. On the other hand, those with masculine energy may prefer to “unplug” by watching TV, having a beer, or simply engaging in quiet downtime without the need to “do” or solve. The key is to honor what brings each person back into their core energy. Every couple is unique, so explore what works best for you and your partner.
Your relationship can thrive when both of you show up as your authentic selves, fueling attraction instead of dimming it. When polarity is restored, attraction comes alive like fireworks. You can thank me later!
